One of the most definitive examples of the quackery that's accepted as legitimate analysis to determine whether a person is repentant, attentive, or telling the truth, are these frauds who appoint themselves as body language scholars or learned experts.
What college, university, or similar institution issues a diploma or certifies that someone has been trained or educated in the practice of body language? Where is the science that offers conclusive proof that someone's attitude, attention, acceptance, empathy, and authenticity can be determined by their physical positioning or movement, whether it be their eyes, their limbs, or their stance.
If you're instructing, informing, or attempting to educate me and my arms are folded across my chest, a so-called body language crackerjack will assert that I'm rejecting what it is you have to say or find your critique or your comments unacceptable. I fold my arms across my chest all the time because it helps to relieve any discomfort I may be having in my back, aid's in the alignment of my spine, or is more comfortable than hanging my long arms at my sides. I'm not judging you. In fact, I’m positioning myself to be more receptive of what it is you wish to convey. If my eyes look away from yours during a shared conversation it's not because I'm lying or being deceptive. It's because I'm figuring out the best way of collecting my thoughts so you'll easily understand my position or whatever it is I have to tell you.
If I place my hands on my hips, it's not because I'm being defensive or potentially aggressive, but because it feels good. It relieves any tension I might have while standing and again, gives me somewhere to rest my arms and hands other than just dangling them loosely at my sides.
If I turn my head to the left or to the right it's more than likely I’m relaxing my neck and not trying to concoct a lie or deceive you. Staring into your eyes all the time makes me feel more like a vampire than a colleague, yet body language witch doctors try to convince us that even the slightest movement of my eyes up to the right or left means I'm either making something up or being dishonest.
This blog is being done while I'm standing up. Every so often I'll place my hands on my hips. It makes it easier for me to think and feels a lot better on my ass muscles than sitting does.
The next time you encounter one of these charlatans, remember to fold your arms, roll your eyes, look away from them, or tap your feet. Get up and down out of your chair if you have to. Touch your hair, stick out your tongue, frown, and do whatever else it takes to screw these con artists up. Show them you're not afraid of their analysis. Tell them, if you have to, to go to hell.