WHO THEY ARE

I love it when unmarried religious leaders speak out against gay marriage. They argue that God made man and woman for the procreation and the raising of children. Yet these men aren't married. They’ve resigned themselves to a life of celibacy. Why is it we listen to them or even pay any attention to what it is they have to say?

All you have to do to get married is to obtain a license to do so from the state you live in. Then you can get married anywhere. In your basement or a cathedral. There's no law that says people must be married by religious leaders or that the marriage has to be held in a church.

So why does religion insert itself into the argument against gay marriage? In fact, if gay people fall in love, isn't that part of God's plan? According to scripture, God is responsible for everything that happens. He gives us free will but punishes us if we don't fall in line with the rest of His believers. That’s not free will. That’s a scam.

I don't care what a bishop or a priest has to say about whom or who should not get married. They don't know the dynamics of marriage. They've resigned themselves to a life without a partner.

Most objections to same sex marriage are that same sex marriage goes against natural laws even though scientists have documented homosexual behavior among birds and animals. People also contend that same sex marriage is immoral. What's immoral about it? I don't know what you do in your sex life and you don't know what I do in mine. If sex is part of everything there is then there is nothing immoral about it.  Am I to believe that God created gay people just to make life miserable for them?

Our science has now proven that our sexual identity is determined by genetic codes. The desire for a same sex partner is hard wired into gay people. And if you think gay people choose to be gay then think about this. There's no way you can change my biological attraction to women. All the counseling in the world couldn't me convince me to become attracted to men anymore than it can convince gay people to give up their attraction to same sex partners. You and I understand that but apparently word hasn't gotten around to these religious leaders that gay sex is also part of the whole cosmic plan.  It's not immoral. Morality has nothing to do with our sexual nature.

I understand that there are people who believe that gay people have made a decision to be gay. Did you make the decision to be a heterosexual? Could someone convince you to change your sexual identity?

Of course not. It's time to take religion out of the equation and deal with the reality that there are millions of people who prefer same sex partners and that it's nonsense not to allow them to have the same privileges the rest of us have simply because some people believe gay marriage to be immoral What's immoral is our treatment of same sex partners as if they were different from the rest of us and the suggestion that somehow their loving attraction to each other is some kind of choice. It's not. It's who they are.